Is Cinderella Ruining Your Chances of a Happily Ever After marriage?

Whether it’s in your head, in books, movies, or in religious tales – Stories of all types shape your life, whether you realize it or not. that’s why the stories you allow yourself to receive are so important.

Consider the tale of Cinderella. I grew up on the Disney favorite, and confess I love it still. I’ve always secretly wished animals would talk to me and interact like the mice in Cinderella, the dogs in Lady and the Tramp,  or the cats in the AristoCats did. Love those movies, too.

As a toddler, I did not realize that the story of Cinderella was setting me up for failure.Throughout my childhood, I was bullied and teased ruthlessly every day, and going to school was a daily torture throughout grade school and high school. Back when I was little, I’m sure I did wish someone would realize my greatness and rescue me.

I often thought of the girls in Good Counsel High School class of 1983 as wicked stepp- sisters who were constantly abusive. (No wonder I didn’t care a bit about going to the class reunion!), but by that time, I didn’t expect or even want a rescue. I had already started learning about the power of the mind and about storytelling by then.

Believe me, I do NOT need or want to be rescued, and I know that love isn’t like Cinderella. There is no magic transformation delivered by a beneficent fairy godmother, and no man is going to instantly fall in love with me and sweep me off my feet.

I know that, but the story persists.

Characters in stories tap into archetypes, which are unconsciously recognized universal types of characters. Some examples are the Hero, the Wise Old Man/Woman, the Herald (change-announcer), the Gatekeeper (who keeps you from that which you seek), and many many more.

Songs are very short stories, but do these short stories get implanted into your brain and consciousness?

The thing about stories is that the messages in them get implanted in you without you knowing. It doesn’t happen only with movies or books; it even happens with music. International speaker Elizabeth george, author of The compatibility Code, got me thinking about the stories of love in songs. Following is an excerpt from her blog post:

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Like my daughters, I lived life through music that “spoke” to me. And oh, what emotions were created; both tears and laughter, hopes and dreams. My best friends and I all shared favorite songs-we attended proms and dances named after hit singles of the day. Barry Manilow sang to our hearts “I write the songs that make the young girls cry…I write the songs of love and special things.”

And we listened and we learned. But we didn’t know that we should have filtered what we heard and we certainly didn’t know that messages became scripted into our subconscious.

In 1976, my first full year of high school, there were 52 weeks of love, sex and dancing. Of all top billboard hits, only 5 didn’t fit into one of those categories. We didn’t know we had been set up for failure in love.

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How do you overcome the stories you have unknowingly picked up in stories, movies and songs?

1. You need to retrain your mind to help you overcome these “default” and deeply embedded stories.

2. You need to learn how to correctly use affirmations to help you change your self-talk.

3. If you are in a relationship, dating, lookinf for relationship, or even married, be sure to pick up Elizebeth and Darren George’s book The Compatibilty Code.

Resources

1. retrain your mind to assist you in overcoming embedded stories. Take the Extreme Thought Makeover Program for FREE.

2. Learn how to use Affirmations correctly with Best Affirmations 30–day program.

Ronda Del Boccio is a transformational speaker, mentor and author known globally as The Story Lady because she teaches authors, entrepreneurs and business owners to easily connect with your ideal customers and contacts through the power of your story.

She is the author of numerous stories, poems, and articles, as well as her books I’ll Push You Steer, and other upcoming books.

Discover how to explode profits, prospects and prime media opoprtuntiies with her latest book is the Instant Credibility system, which teaches any business owner, entrepreneur, coach, speaker or writer to craft a lead-generating book that grows your business.

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